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My honest TAPIF experience — A lot of world to see

My honest TAPIF experience

In theory you think: working in France, what a dream right? I’d say most people have a good TAPIF experience…I however, had a tough one. I know I know, it’s taken me awhile to talk about this but I definitely was planning on it eventually and I also just needed to get it out of my system.

This is honestly really hard to write about and I even got emotional writing this. I know that a few people who posted about having a bad experience got backlash on the assistant FB group. Something along the lines of “boo hoo, suck it up you’re in France”. However, not every TAPIF experience is a feel-good one. I was never as stressed or depressed as long as I can remember during the program. So don’t be quick to dismiss someone who’s having a difficult time. Another disclaimer: I’m much happier now at my new job in a new city in a new country and overall in a much better place.

What is TAPIF?

For those of you who don’t know TAPIF is a Teaching English Abroad program in France for American and Canadian citizens. It’s a partnership between the French Embassy in D.C. and the French Ministry of Education. This is was the job that brought me to France and what I was doing from September to April.

You’re placed in either an Elementary School or Secondary School (Middle School or High School) in basically in sized city in any part of France that asks for an assistant. The program starts October 1st (although you can arrive a little bit before) and concludes end of April for 7-8ish months of teaching the visa ends in May.

I’ll give a rundown of what the application process is like in a future post and then what the program is actually like and what I thought of it. So if you want to be an assistant and you have more questions let me know and I can make a more in depth post about certain aspects or I would be happy to answer your individual questions. I’m thinking about an individual “Living in France” post. I also have tons of materials and lesson plans I’ll post later.

My honest TAPIF experience in a small French town

Obviously, this isn’t a permanent position and I saw the experience as a stepping stone to see if teaching or TEFL was the thing for me.

Keep in mind that literally every assistant (and there’s 1,000+ of us) has a different experience so if you’re really up for the challenge read more blogs as my experience is definitely not everyone’s.

To give you a little bit of background TAPIF was not my first time in France but actually my second time. I studied abroad 3 years prior in an entirely different city. My time studying abroad was the best of my life. I had a great program, perfect host family in a charming city, friends and support from the university. Plus everything was new and it was my first time in Europe at all so I fell head over heels in love with France. When it came time to think about post-grad plans I knew I wanted to go back.

My second time in France couldn’t have been more different and more opposite. You don’t have much choice over where you’re place or the kind of town and I was placed in a town of about 3,000 people. Mind you it was close to a bigger city but this town didn’t even have a train station only a singular bus stop. Yeah. That’s it. The town had almost no one my age around and all of the other assistants in my academie were pretty far away. All of the assistants buddied up pretty quickly and everyone got close and I found myself wishing that would happen for me.

Expectations vs. Reality

The worst part I guess was the isolation. The feeling that I didn’t belong there was overwhelming. When I was studying in France sure it was tough sometimes being understood but I was kind of looking at France through rose colored glasses at the time. I felt this time that I stuck out like a sore thumb no matter what. I lost all the confidence I had in speaking French quickly and realized how much vocabulary I had lost. Because I was so stressed I didn’t try too hard in that aspect although I still gave myself some grief about it.

I didn’t understand the school system and I felt so lost in that too. Being much younger than most teachers but significantly older than most students. I felt like the other teachers would like be nice but didn’t really want to have anything to do with me. With my colleagues this was an issue too. I was all on my own. I was alone with the students (I taught 11 hours a week so 11 groups, switching every other week so 22 groups of students. 8-18 students per class so like 300-400 students total). And like don’t get me wrong I’ve worked with kids, I’ve been a teaching assistant but being thrown into this was completely overwhelming at first. I asked for directions. I asked for what they wanted me to cover (my English teaching colleagues). And you know what kind of answers I got? “Make them talk” just “work with them” and that they were supposed to tell me what to do after the first break but they never did.

So I eventually learned what worked and did tons of research and many hours creating lessons all on my own that worked. Sometimes they flopped sometimes they were a success. It was nice being able to create and teach what I wanted to do but so much time. Teaching was also incredibly intense and while I didn’t work long hours it sucked the life out of me and all of my energy.

Oh, we forgot you exist and that you don’t automatically know everything

My school was a big part of the issue. On three occasions they switched my classrooms for an entire week or even days and failed to tell me. So at that time I’d have to round up my students and try to find an empty classroom and pray that it wasn’t already taken. So my school basically forgot that I taught there. Every time they did this I had to go in circles and a different office somewhere had forgotten to give me a schedule or they had to make one up.

So in France there are 3 years of high school and I taught at all 3 levels. But even within that the classes all had different levels of English. Some where really advanced and young and some were in their last year and had a difficult time understanding me no matter what I did. There were some specific classes that just didn’t want to listen or be there or didn’t care and also had behavioral issues. Specifically at my orientation they said that I wasn’t supposed to be a disciplinarian but whatever. I was harnessing all of my energy and feeling so feeble like what I did wouldn’t make a difference and it got to the point that every other Friday I’d break down and cry in my empty classroom. Completely defeated. I thought at that point…this is so not normal. In reality I was in so far over my head.

The breaking point

The breaking point was when they said that for leaving early and to still get my full salary I had to make up hours which was fine. The not fine part was they asked me to do a full 9 hour day with no breaks and basically be a substitute teacher and teach full classes (30+ students). I’d never worked with these classes and some where ever middle schoolers. I wasn’t sure what to do at all and on the verge of a mental breakdown I emailed the director of TAPIF. She took care of everything but word got to my school and the principal all of whom were furious with me. I didn’t have the words in French to explain all of the emotions I was feeling but overall a feeling of powerlessness. They said I’d skipped on those days where I had no idea where my classes were or when they changed my schedule without explaining it to me. So I knew I’d never win but just contacted CIEP and was sure to be thoroughly honest about my experience there.

Why didn’t I go to the teachers I worked with? I didn’t feel comfortable raising any concerns to them. Because my school wasn’t good at communicating anyway I knew I’d be forced to even though I wasn’t allowed to be with over 15 students at all it was a break of my contract. As I’d be directly responsible for the students and as I’m not a real teacher that wouldn’t be legal and it would make the school look bad too.

I was kind of in this cloud of depression in a town with very little to do and no one really to confide in or to understand since I was the only assistant at this school. Some schools have many. Another part was I got to live at the school and the apartment was nice and I got to save money. However the screams of those middle schoolers…drove me up the wall. Instead of doing the natural thing like reaching out I just curled more and more inward and pretended like things were okay which they weren’t. But when you’re depressed that the way even though it’s unhealthy that you tend to deal with things. I had lost so much confidence in my abilities and myself that it was hard to pick myself up and keep trying.

A learning experience…that’s for sure

I’m jealous of everyone that had a good experience. I wish it was as good as my study abroad experience and it definitely taught me something’s not all good of course but I suppose every experience can be a learning experience if you make it. Some of my students were amazing and most of them were so kind and funny and they were definitely the best part of the program. I was also lucky enough to get a job opportunity after in which I have a great work environment with great people so it was definitely good to move on after. The French people, fellow assistants and friends I got to know in France also really helped me through. That and the plentiful breaks every couple months. I’m very grateful for all of that. In the end I tried my hardest and I hope I made a positive impact on some kids and taught them some new aspects of American culture if anything.

If you’re in TAPIF and you’re experiencing difficulties know that there are resources and you’re probably not the only one feeling this way. Your feelings are valid. You can contact the director of your program (it differs), the administrators of your academie you’ll meet at orientation, your academie, the CIEP, the secretary of your school, fellow TAPIF-er’s and alumni and so on. Please don’t let me scare you off but above all go into the program with an open mind, ask lots of questions and try your best.

xo Liz

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  1. Bel
    June 25, 2017

    I’m sorry you had that experience. Sometimes people aren’t kind and helpful when they should be – all the time especially to those who do not give them a reason to be otherwise. I’ve had a similar experience – being in a new place with no one to talk to and I told myself I would never let anyone feel the way I felt.

    1. <3 oh for sure don't want any other assistants feeling this way so I thought I'd share

  2. Sophie
    June 25, 2017

    You should be proud of yourself either way its a huge experience ❤

    1. Thanks Sophie!

  3. Chloe Keene
    June 25, 2017

    Hi Liz! I’m actually also a twenty-something Detroiter hoping to live abroad in the near future, so when I read your bio, I knew you were a blogger I wanted to follow. I also studied abroad in France (this past fall), and I loved it too, so TAPIF is of great interest to me. Thanks for your honesty in talking about your experience–I’m so sorry to hear that it wasn’t a good one. Shame on the people who said to “suck it up, you’re in France.” Any new experience, especially cross-culturally, can be tough for any number of reasons, and no one should minimize that. Major props to you for sticking it out and putting in time to prepare lessons, even when you felt ill-prepared. It was super cool to read your story. 🙂

    1. Hey Chloe! That’s awesome 🙂 there are so many opportunities to get back abroad after you graduate including TAPIF. I also blogged about how I went about my job search. Best of luck to you and thanks for reading!

  4. Bola
    June 26, 2017

    hey Liz. I think it’s great that you were so honest in this post about your experience. I really am so sorry that it wasn’t the “dream” that everyone imagines it to be, or even that it wasn’t just a super great experience in general. i wish that our towns were closer and that we had talked more. i would’ve love for you to visit colmar/strasbourg for a weekend or a day. or just take a trip together somewhere. i know that it can be very lonely in such a small town :/ i was lucky enough to have quite a few assistants in colmar with me, and i wondered how it would be to be the only assistant, heck, the only one my age in a small town! i admire you for your strength, and like you said, at the very least, it was a learning experience. and i hope u dont feel alone in your experience–even those who had great experiences, i am sure everyone of us have felt down, lonely, angry, frustrated, and even depressed. i was overall happy with my time in Colmar, but pleaseeee believe me it was NOT perfect. sometimes i did feel very alone, very frustrated and hopeless. i went through a lot of down moments that i may not have put on my blog or expressed to other people. please believe me, it was not all sunshine from start to finish. when you’re living in france you almost feel like you have to put up a front, that life is perfect and you’re eating macarons and eclairs all day. but the reality is so far from that.

    i hope you will return back to france someday, even if it’s just to visit or for shorter amounts of time! and i am so happy that you are much happier at your new job! your new city looks lovely from what ive seen on insta :]] tapif can be tricky, it’s the luck of the draw in some ways. but the fact that you took a chance, tried to make the best of a small, inconvenient town (and school), and did your best is a a feat in and of itself! bonne chance and bonne continuation!

    1. Merci mille fois Bola for your kind words! Yeah so much of tapif is up to luck you really have to make the best of it. I’m sure I’ll be back to visit and you will to!

  5. Rebecca
    June 26, 2017

    Really appreciate your honest thoughts about TAPIF. As someone who’s done the program for two years, both in small towns, I can understand how tough it is to deal with the frustrations–inefficient schools, nightmarish bureaucracy, cultural and linguistic barriers–all which can really take a toll on your self-esteem. Isolated towns are the worst, and I wished that I’d chosen to live in the nearby city my first year and be closer to assistants that way. Nevertheless, going through the eight months abroad really toughens you up, and I believe that you’ve come a long way. You learn a lot of indelible lessons in the process, many which you can apply to future careers. Glad to see you’re happier in Germany, though, and best of luck with your new job!

    1. Thanks Rebecca! Oh for sure no matter what lots of lessons to be learned because of tapif.

  6. Anne
    June 28, 2017

    Thank you for writing this post! I’m so sorry you had this experience, but I love this kind of honesty when discussing living abroad. I consider myself to be extremely lucky in my two TAPIF placements, and even so, I will attest that it’s no walk in the park. There are SO MANY variables and it’s really easy to feel like you have no control over what’s happening in your own life. You’re often not taken seriously, treated with little respect by colleagues, and yet have no authority over your own classes. It’s honestly such a weird job!! /rant…
    I wish more people would speak up about things like this, so that future assistants can have more realistic expectations. Really glad that you made it through the contract and it’s now led you onto bigger and better things!!

    1. Thank you so much Anne! Yeah agreed it’s a weird job and a weird position to be in. I did see some people expressing that they were having a hard time in the assistant FB group but never any blogs. Thank you 🙂 I honestly sometimes didn’t think I’d make it but we all did.

  7. Personne
    November 16, 2017

    Je suis assistante d’espagnol dans ce moment et c’est vrai que mon rêve d’être en France disparaît peu à peu. C’est rassurant de savoir que quelqu’un a eu presque les mêmes sentiments que moi. Dans mon cas, les profs sont gentils mais parfois je sens qu’elles n’ont pas besoin de moi. Il y a des jours où elles me font venir juste pour observer ou pour me dire: “aujourd’hui on va pas travailler avec toi” Je travaille très peu, 8h par semaine et seulement 3 jours, j’ai beaucoup de temps libre et je m’énnuie. Le pire j’ai pas d’amis. J’ai plus l’envie de sortir.
    J’aurais aimé que ma première fois en France avait été en tant qu’étudiante.
    Je deteste pas la France, je commence à detester le fait d’être assistante.
    Moi aussi, je suis jalouse de ceux qui ont une belle expérience.
    Merci beaucoup d’avoir fait ce post. On doit connaître et écouter d’autres histoires parce que tout le monde ne sera pas au paradis et ça dépend bien sûr de nos personnalitées (un aspect négatif dans mon cas).

    1. Bonjour et merci pour votre commentaire.
      Oui, c’est sûr que vous n’êtes pas la seule d’avoir une expérience TAPIF comme ça.
      C’est difficile de faire les amies qui sont françaises/européens mais c’est possible parce que vous parlez français. Mais alors c’est très facile d’être isolé. J’ai utilisé meetup, hostels, les groupes FB (girlslovetravel, etc), et aussi mon ancien copain qui est français.

      Je sais que c’est une situation difficile d’être dans un pays étranger et ce n’est pas l’expérience désirée comme vos rêves mais bon courage!

  8. jackie
    November 22, 2017

    Hey Elisabeth,
    My name is Jackie and I found your blog online. The reason I’m writing is because I’m currently in the TAPIF program but am about 95% certain I want to quit after Christmas break. There are many reasons but essentially I wanted to find out if you knew best how to go about doing this. Did you quit the program or stick it out? I’m trying to figure out how to respectfully tell my teachers my plans and still maintain a pleasant work environment the next 4 weeks. Any advice you have would be awesome. Thanks so much.

    1. Hey Jackie! Thanks for reaching out, it’s definitely not the best situation to be in. I actually stuck it out the whole time but I did think about quitting. I think it may depend on the circumstances is it the students, the atmosphere of the schools, the teachers? Is there anyone you trust at the school or who works at the academie you can talk to? Then you can at least make your situation a bit better. I would talk over your concerns with someone in your academie and then see if you want to stay or not. I’m not sure if you need the job for the visa/income or if you’d still want to stay in France. Honestly all of the vacances got me through it and friends in the area. You’re definitely not alone in this so I’d reach out to the academie and perhaps to Natalie Cox. If you want to talk this out please let me know! You can DM me on instagram @alotofworldtosee or shoot me an email: elisabethannking@gmail.com


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